Of all the actions associated with sexual pleasure, none are as well-known as the classic moan. And I just absolutely love moaning, not just during sex but also during masturbation sessions as well. And if you ask any guy at least, they find moaning one of the sexiest things a woman can do during sex. But for so many women, I feel like they do not understand this fact, and feel as though moaning is unattractive. This leads them to avoid moaning to a certain extent, if not completely, which is not good at all! I just wanted to take some time to explain why I love moaning so much, and why you as a woman (I’m assuming that you are a woman if you are reading this) should embrace it in your sex lives!
To me, moaning just feels like a release of sexual tension and an unleashing of sexual energy. Imagine staying absolutely silent while you were being “railed” by someone doggy-style. It just doesn’t sit right with me – if I am enjoying the moment and how my partner is making me feel, I want to make that fact known audibly. Even if the walls are thin and people next door can hear my moans of pleasure, I couldn’t care less in the moment. It is all about me and my sexual satisfaction, and I won’t let anyone’s perception of me as a result of my moaning deter me from moaning as loudly as freely or as loudly as I want to. Especially when you consider the fact that sex is often a rare occasion for a woman, you should even more so do your best to make the most out of the opportunity. If you honestly don’t get yourself off even further through audible moans, then that is perfectly fine. But in my experience, almost all women moan naturally when receiving sexual pleasure, so for most women, to make the most out of your sexual opportunities, you should be moaning and enjoying every minute of it.
And moaning isn’t just to help you maximize your sexual satisfaction – it is also a great way to convey said satisfaction to your partner. In fact, there is such a wide range of moans that women can use in the bedroom. Your softest (almost silent) moans are so sensual and in my experience, is what really gets a man hard during foreplay (knowing that you are getting turned on is about a big of a physiological turn on a man can get). Even more monotonic moaning at louder volumes indicates to your man to don’t stop doing what you are doing. And obviously there is the top-of-your-lungs screaming that helps indicate to your man that you are about to climax (or at least to keep doing what you are doing to ensure I get there!). All of these various “levels” of moaning have their own unique feel to them, and when done naturally, can really help to set the mood for not only yourself, but for your partner as well.
Moaning is also great because it makes me feel sexy in general. For a lot of women, you may not enjoy sex as much because of the thought of not feeling beautiful, or sex enough in the act, particularly being fully or half-naked in front of your partner. For example, I know plenty of women who will only have sex in the dark, because they do not like how their naked bodies look, especially in front of their partners. For those women and any women with similar issues, moaning is a great way to convey sexiness and help build confidence not just during the sex, but after the sex is complete as well. Just let go and live (and moan) in the moment – your partner will love you for it, and you’ll feel sexier and more confident as a result!
Having said all that so far, I do have one pet peeve when it comes to moaning in general: screaming unnaturally loud. Despite what you may think ladies, everyone can tell when your moans are not genuine, including your man, and it becomes a huge turn off for them. I would know because I have plenty of guy friends who have mentioned those very same sentiments to me about other women. If you aren’t turned on enough to moan for the entire house to hear, don’t force it just for the sake of “sounding” sexy. In fact, even if you are extremely horny but don’t naturally moan loudly, don’t force the issue. Or at the very least, if you want to fake moan for the sake of boosting your partner’s confidence, at least make sure you are doing a decent job. Otherwise you look absolutely foolish! Trust me when I say that even at a lower volume and intensity, a more natural moan will always trump someone who is clearly faking it.
So anyway, that’s my deal with moaning. I think it is an absolutely beautiful part of sex and self-pleasure, even though it may not sound “beautiful” on the surface. Moaning is probably my single favorite part of sex, not just because it helps me to maximize the pleasure I am feeling, but also tells my partner that what he is doing is amazing. Plus, as an added bonus, it makes me feel so sexy. It is definitely something that I think all women should embrace in their sex lives!